“Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other, bound by the courage to grow through struggle into bliss.” —Author Unknown
Being in a fantastic power couple relationship means that you can shine together.
In the 17 years (plus many lifetimes!) together, we’ve found 4 main areas that contribute to taking your relationship to the next level. If you’re not thinking, connecting, and communicating in specific ways to your partner, you’ll never truly experience the intimacy it takes to hit #powercouple status.
In this episode, you’ll also learn:
✨ The specific ways that we achieve balance in our relationship.
✨ Why Chris makes it a priority to track my moon cycle.
✨ The relationship that made Chris realize that lifetime love was possible.
Tune in and let us know in the comments below which tips you’re going to put into practice.
Secret #1: Be Brutally Honest
If you can’t show up 100% authentically in your relationship, then you can’t show up 100% authentically in life.
Brutal honesty is about developing extreme trust. You should feel that you can expose who you really are and share the pain that you’ve been through.
Ask yourself this: “Where am I lacking honesty in my relationship?” Find an area where you can speak more truth and become more vulnerable. Allow yourself to reveal yourself more fully to your partner.
Secret #2: Prioritize Intimacy
Intimacy should be a consistent part of your daily routine with your partner. (And no, we’re not just talking about doing the wild thing!)
Intimacy is not just what you do in the bedroom. It’s the way you talk to, think about, and listen to your partner.
The good news is that if you’re making it a consistent practice, your intimacy will build over the years and get better and better.
Throughout the day, think about your partner in a loving way, so that when you walk through the door, you can show them you care rather about their needs rather than instantly sharing all of your troubles.
Secret #3: Vocalize Your Expectations and Your Preferences
We all have reasons for our expectations, but if they’re unexpressed, we’ll be continually disappointed. Remember: If your partner doesn’t meet your unspoken expectations, it’s not because they don’t care! It’s because they don’t know what they are!
For example, I absolutely love to send and receive gifts. It is 100% my language. However, when Chris and I first got together, he didn’t know this about me. So Valentine’s Day and my birthday rolled by without any special gifts, and I felt so upset! When I finally expressed my needs and desires to Chris, I was giving him the opportunity to meet my needs.
Set an intention to tell your partner about the things that light you up:
“I want to take more walks.”
“I want to go on more romantic dates.”
“I want to spend more time connecting and talking.”
Another thing to keep in mind is that if you want to receive something, you should give it! Needing something is out of desperation. It always pushes away what we’re actually seeking. Giving sends a signal to the universe that you’re also ready to receive.
Looking for a unique gift to give someone you love? I recently learned about a company called Under Lucky Stars that creates beautifully designed star maps that show the unique alignment of the stars in a place and time chosen by you. I created one for Chris that depicted the stars on the day we met – a perfect gift for our anniversary that incorporated our love for astrology. You can get yours here.
Secret #4: Align Your Futures Together
I’ve asked so many women in tarot readings “Do you see him in your future?”
If they pause for more than 2 seconds, I know the answer is no.
If you don’t align your future with your partner, you will not go far together.
To help you create a vision for a lifetime together, surround yourself with successful couples who you look up to – people who have navigated building businesses, overcoming obstacles, and weathering all of life’s storms. (Bonus points if they’ve done it with a deep sense of humor and silliness!)
Jim Rohn famously said you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Said in another way, “If you show me your friends, I’ll show you your future”.
That’s great…if you’re surrounded by amazing people all the time.
If the people around us inspire our growth, talk about positive outcomes, offer genuine feedback and encourage us, we typically succeed.
We develop better, healthier habits, our self-worth and self-esteem raises, and our intellect gets stimulated.
But, if those you’re closest to have a negative mindset, if their words reflect scarcity and limits, if they look at the world with a constant half-empty attitude, it’s easy to adopt their beliefs and find yourself not only thinking the same way but repeating it to others as well.
Long term negative relationships, including the ones we carry over from childhood, breed toxicity into the fertile fields of our mind.
Whether you want to let go of past heartaches, become a better parent or spouse, or attract a partner to share your life with, it all starts with the right mindset shifts.
In this masterclass you’ll discover:
✨ Why you attract negative partners (and friends) without even realizing it
✨ How to uncover and let go of the sea of confusion and story that kills your love life
✨ A Simple Method to Access Your Subconscious
✨ 3 steps to a powerful reinvention of relationships
✨ The simple way to nourish the most important connection in your life
✨ How to raise your vibration to create amazing relationships
Ready to ELEVATE your life to the next level?
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