Your authentic self is always within you. For some, it shines brightly, like a lighthouse that everyone around can always view. For others, your authentic self may have retreated further inside you, seeking shelter behind a protective shell. If you are ready to crack that shell and let the light radiate through to the outside world, here are six steps you can take to move down the path towards freedom.
This can be the hardest step, but it is absolutely the most important.
Step back from viewing yourself as an enemy (you may not even realize you’re doing it) and instead view yourself as a bestie.
Consider the last time you thought about yourself.
Was it to compare yourself to another? To wish you had something that they did, whether it be their appearance, their success, their happiness?
Think about yourself more often in a positive light and be mindful of the power of the words you’re using when you do it!
Whatever you speak into the universe, you create. Use “I am” phrases that are positive and shape you into the version of you that will achieve your goals. Say them aloud or write them down: I am beautiful. I am successful. I am confident. I am happy!
Try this short exercise to recalibrate your thinking. Write down 3-5 things about yourself that you don’t like or are constantly criticizing. Rewrite each one into a positive mindset that highlights why you are so uniquely you. No matter how long it takes, see it through to the end.
When you’re finished, transform these positive statements into self-love affirmations that you can repeat whenever you feel yourself sliding backward.
Self-care comes in all forms, so strive for a holistic approach that checks all the boxes you need.
When you go to eat, are you viewing your food as fuel? Are you nourishing and caring for your body when you consume? Are you staying sufficiently hydrated?
This helps both your body and your skin! Are you moving your body around? Just 20-30 minutes a day will make all the difference.
You can also do small stretches when you have a short amount of time, like calf-raises while brushing your teeth. Speaking of brushing your teeth, check in on the rest of your beauty care routine.
If you don’t have time for a full makeover, a face wipe and some moisturizer will make you feel brand new. When you take the time to love and nurture the vessel you’re in, you maximize your ability to help others as well.
You can’t give from an empty cup.
How do you feel right now?
If someone asked you this question, would you tell them the truth? Why or why not?
Take the pressure off yourself to be “fine” all day every day!
Check in with your real feelings and express them. Social media is a bittersweet thing. So many people feel obligated to be “on” all the time, but don’t mistake this for reality. One Instagram post or Snapchat story doesn’t show the full day, only a slice of a moment.
Feeling forced to only show the highs may compromise your ability to deal with the lows. Don’t push them down and don’t avoid processing the setbacks in your life.
These negatives balance out the universe and serve to teach us valuable lessons. Take those lessons and grow from them!
When our minds, hearts, and mouths are in alignment, we can find harmony.
We’re hard enough on ourselves as it is, without having negativity surrounding us externally also. Recognize the things that throw you out of alignment and learn how to protect yourself from them.
Negative people are often the hardest to change. Can you bring them into alignment with you? If no, can you remove them altogether? Can you minimize your exposure?
Learn to pay attention when your body is sending you warning vibes about a person or a situation, and react accordingly!
Authenticity is not a merit badge you get for successfully demonstrating it one time.
This is a marathon! No good habits are made in a single attempt, nor bad habits broken in one. Repetition will be key for the long haul. Practice authenticity constantly, but don’t fixate on your failures when they happen.
Everyone stumbles, and more often than once. The misstep is not important. what’s important is what you do after! Pick yourself back up and keep persisting.
Authenticity is like a muscle that you have to build up over time. The longer you do it, the stronger it gets.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Be sure you are surrounding yourself with positive people that will celebrate your successes, love you through your trials, and who will always be honest with you. Then reciprocate! (Need a tribe? Join my #SHINETRIBE Sisterhood Facebook Community!)
Having a strong support group will make all the difference on your journey of discovering your authentic self.
I’m going to show you how to uncover who you really are and help you bust through the blocks, beliefs, and fears that hold you back from shining bright as your authentic self so you can reclaim your personal power and cultivate unshakable confidence to do your great work in the world!