“Perfectionism is not a way to avoid shame. Perfectionism is shame.” – Brené Brown
We are giving you an Elevator insider look into one of our hottest topics inside The Elevated Life Club, Perfectionism. So many of us battle with a sense of perfectionism where we feel like we are never good enough or live up to unrealistic expectations placed on ourselves or other people.
In this episode of The Elevated Life podcast, we’re sharing “How to End the Destructive Cycle of Perfectionism” so that you can stop letting perfectionism and self-doubt dull your sparkle. If you struggle with fear of failure or are a people pleaser, this episode is for you!
Tune in to hear:
✨ How to stop beating yourself up
✨ Why “shoulding” on yourself is wasting your life
✨ How to overcome the need for approval
✨ 3 guided meditations to help you ditch perfectionism
When you think about where perfectionism stems from, it boils down to the need for approval from ourselves or other people. A lot of times, us attaining the approval of others comes at the price of us going against who we truly are. If you only consider yourself successful when you’ve met the standards someone else has of you, you’ll never feel whole or completely loved.
You have to figure out the reward you’re getting from the voice inside your head saying certain things. Often, it’s your mind trying to keep you safe and protected, but that also keeps you from taking larger actions in your life. Every time you find yourself speaking negatively to yourself, cancel the thought and give yourself the positive reinforcement you need rather than the negative voice beating you up.
Self-love is a powerful drug, and it is okay to love yourself. Sometimes, what we judge about ourselves is the exact thing that people love us for. We must do inner reflecting to show ourselves more compassion and love. What matters is that you choose to accept all of yourself, and that’s when real self-love begins. We’re here to grow, and the more mistakes we make, the better because, the wiser we’ll end up being.
(00:53) Remember to come back to yourself and realize how important you are.
(03:10) How stopping the cycle of perfectionism affects everyone around you.
(08:36) Commit to letting go of the little shit.
(10:58) How to give yourself grace as a perfectionist.
(18:30) Setting yourself free from other people’s judgments.
(29:32) A guided meditation to peel back the layers that no longer benefit you.
(34:29) 5 ways to overcome the need for approval.
(40:56) The 7 or above rule.
(44:55) The gestalt prayer guided meditation.
(53:37) How to eliminate the voice in your head that tells you that you are a fraud.
(01:08:37) A guided meditation for unconditional self-love.
(01:15:37) A 21-day challenge for this month to build yourself back up.
(01:20:27) An affirmation to keep on repeat every day to help combat perfectionism.
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