“To be unafraid of the judgement of others is the greatest freedom you can have.”  – Timothy Shriver

Ready to stop being crippled by other people’s criticism?

As a salon owner, I regularly work with women on their confidence. One theme I see come up all the time is how easily women can be derailed by someone’s criticism.

When you spend too much time worrying about what others are thinking and doing, you risk losing yourself. Constantly looking to others for approval cuts off your own creativity!

The truth is: we’re always going to be judged and criticized, but you can’t let fear stop you from living your authentic life. What’s most important is that you’re being judged as your true self, rather than the masks you put on to please others.

Today on The Elevated Life®, we’ll be sharing 4 tips to help you to become more empowered so that others’ opinions do not derail you.  

In this episode, we also talked about:

How looking at the struggles of past generations can change our perspective about our own perceived struggles

I propose a challenge: no whining or complaining for 72 hours!

Why acceptance is a key step to developing mental toughness

The most important thing you can do for your partner or child

1. Create your own identity

The first step to developing mental toughness is to design your own goals, design your own life, and figure out what you really want.

It can be easy to get into a space of people-pleasing where we only take a job that will impress our parents or follow the typical path to success.

In order to feel confident and empowered, you have to decide for yourself what you like, what your standards are, and what your morals are. From that space of clarity, you’ll be able to understand who you are and more clearly define your boundaries.

2. Expect Setbacks

Every time you go after big dreams, you have to expect that there will be setbacks and failures along the way. 

If you want to build an amazing business, have a strong relationship with a loving partner, or be a loving and devoted parent, there will be times when you’ll look at what you’re doing and question everything. 

Knowing ahead of time that setbacks are part of the journey will keep you from giving up when times get tough.

3. Stop complaining, whining, and blaming

When you’re stuck in victimhood and blaming, you’re giving away your power. Stop the whining and ask yourself “What is the next creative solution?” This will automatically build you back up.

One problem that society is facing is that we have very narrow perspectives and can turn a small setback into a huge problem. Keep in mind: we live in a world full of conveniences, which can make it easy to drop into whining and complaining when the slightest thing goes wrong.

Start championing yourself and take charge! You’ll probably find that by adopting a more positive and confident attitude, more people will want to help you.

4. Believe in Yourself

In order to be mentally tough, you have to turn inward. You can’t be looking for your worth in someone else! Only you can develop a relationship with yourself that makes you aware of your inherent value.

Rather than believing that the negative things that others have told you are the truth, you have to know that you can make it through anything. That deep belief in yourself is something that you have to intentionally cultivate.

Tune in and let us know in the comments below which tips you’re going to put into practice.