“As empaths, we’re not here to be sponges or enablers. We’re here to be helpers, guides, and supporters. —Aletheia Luna


Are you a highly sensitive person who constantly attracts people you’re trying to fix?

We’ve found that empaths often attract narcissists, which can turn into a soul-sucking cycle that will dim your light and keep you from living the life you deserve.

In this episode of The Elevated Life®, we’re sharing Why Empaths Attract Narcissists and How to Break the Toxic Cycle. If you’re someone who sucks at setting boundaries, this episode is for you!

Tune in to learn:

💜How to tell if you are an empath

💜Common traits of narcissists (and why they probably don’t know they are one)

💜Why it’s so common for empaths to attract narcissists

💜3 ways to break the toxic cycle

What is an Empath and What is a Narcissist?

An empath is someone who is extremely sensitive and feels other people’s feelings deeply. If you go into a place and take on someone else’s energies, you are probably an empath. 

Empaths also feel a deep need to help and nurture others, and often go into service-based or healing jobs.

Narcissism is a personality disorder where someone has an inflated sense of self. Narcissists are often quite charming and usually don’t recognize their harmful qualities.

Why Do Empaths Attract Narcissists?

Empaths are magnets for narcissists because they have a soul drive to heal and fix others. Narcissists don’t know they need to be fixed, but they are drawn to empaths because of their devotion. This creates a toxic, co-dependent relationship

The Toxic Cycle

What we see happen in relationships between empaths and narcissists is that the narcissist first charms the empath, feeding into their desire for love and connection. Because of their inflated sense of self, the narcissist will eventually begin to tear down the empath, knowing where their weak spots are. The narcissist will eventually apologize and the empath will choose to take them back because of their desire to fix or heal others.

This cycle often continues for years until the empath is left as a hollow shell of the person they once were.

Tip #1: Set Better Boundaries

You have the power to decide what you’re willing to tolerate. Empaths don’t want to upset others so often end up as doormats.

If you want to break the toxic cycle, you have to draw a line in the sand and let your partner know where you stand.

Tip #2: Prioritize Yourself

Often in empath/narcissist relationships, the empath becomes so engrossing in “healing” the narcissist that they completely disregard their own self-care. 

Want to know if you’re in a healthy relationship? Start taking care of yourself and see what your partner does. Are they angry and resentful? Or supportive and loving?

Tip #3: Get Out Now

We say this with love, but the fact is, it can be nearly impossible to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. 

You don’t want to end up with regrets down the road, so find support from friends and family and leave as soon as you can.

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Do you consider yourself to be a highly sensitive person?

Are you someone who feels everything (especially the emotions and feelings of others)?

It’s a gift, not a curse.

Empaths are some of the most compassionate people. They are the first to lend a hand, be someone to lean on, and help someone in need. They’re our nurses, teachers, and caregivers.

But they also get taken advantage of, preyed upon, and used by people abusing their good nature.

To succeed as a healer, you have to be a BADASS.

It’s not enough to just sit back and take everything the world throws your way. You’ll burn out and eventually resent the work you were put here to do.

That’s why we’re so excited to arm you with our strategies for reclaiming your power, standing up for yourself, and taking charge of your mental and emotional health in the Badass Empath masterclass inside The Elevated Life® Club.

You’ll learn:

✨ The 6 Empath Kryptonites

✨ Our technique to become immune to criticism

✨ How to stop being a people pleaser

✨ The three types of people need to remove from your life

✨ An easy exercise to eliminate feeling drained

✨ The counterintuitive step you need to take to stop being taken advantage of

✨ Plus 3 powerful, guided meditations to help the training stick

Ready to ELEVATE your life to the next level?

You can access the training by joining The Elevated Life® membership club for live monthly masterclasses, group coaching, yoga/meditation practice, and accountability from other like-minded souls on a mission to ELEVATE every area of life.